Dating needs to be less like marriage

I watched a television broadcast of Mark Sanford’s wife (governor of South Carolina) say how she is filing for divorce because he said this woman from South America was his eternal love and is basically throwing his wife and children. Its surprising that he continues to look for his “eternal love” even though he’s married…

Marriage in our culture is sometimes too much like dating. Instead of focusing on being faithful and devoted we are intent on continuing to find love. That might be good times when you’re dating but marriage isn’t the time to start trying to find “love”. Believe it or not, God really doesn’t care if you feel that you love someone else.

So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” (Matt. 19:6)

Marriage is ultimately about Christ and the Church and one of the deepest aspects of that relationship is FAITHFULNESS- even when you have feelings for others.

Dating is too much like marriage. I think part of the problem is we turn dating into this quasi-marriage. Some try to find love even when they are married but some ask for too much commitment in dating (I’m talking Christians only btw). Somehow you can “cheat” on someone in dating and we use the same word for marital unfaithfulness. I think Christians can sometimes take dating way too seriously so that they can be “ok” with dating for 10 years just because in many respects its the same as marriage. Even Christians seem to think that even while dating you can live together/plan life together/share finances/question the other’s affection. I think it’s dangerous to think dating is an acceptable cheaper substitute to marriage. Those who have steady jobs/incomes get married but those who are poor date until they make more money.

Dating becomes dangerous when it is viewed as anything but a courtship period before marriage.

 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.(Ephesians 3:3)

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